100 stories to go…

If some people are so hungry for a feeling of importance that they actually go insane to get it, imagine what miracle you and I can achieve by giving people honest appreciation this side of insanity.
~ Dale Carnegie


All you can hear is laughter.

Male and Female laughter, high and low pitched, shrieky, deep… all kinds of laughter that made for a beautiful sound to my ears.

Seated around a table, actually four tables that have been joined together to better accommodate the large crowd, a group of young professionals shared jokes, stories and lots of laughter.

I walked in late, the ambience was awesome and I stood at a distance and the one thing I thought, I will miss this people.


Every successful individual knows that his or her achievement depends on a community of persons working together. ~ Paul Ryan


They dedicated their after work time to appreciate me. (and a couple of my colleagues who are also moving on… but this is my story)

I wouldn’t be the person I am today in my career without these beautiful, mosaic crowd of my peers and seniors.

They have molded me by teaching, training, working with and supporting me all the years and here they were selflessly taking time off their rest hours to gather round and appreciate me.

The first eight years in my professional life and here I was saying goodbye to it.

Mixed emotions… I was happy I was moving but sad that this is all I knew.

They been my family for the better part of the last eight years, and one thing is for sure, each of them represented a print in my memories.

Some of my very special and lasting friendships were born here…


The making of friends who are real friends, is the best token we have of a man’s success in life.
~Edward E. Hale


Anyway as a gift I received a book, Chicken Soup for The Soul; On Being a Parent. 101 Stories. (I am a parent) – They got me a gift!! Aren’t these people awesome?

I managed to read the foreword and the first story; I have 100 stories to left to read.

And it dawned on me; This was just story number one, 100 more to go…

I have just but done one story in my career. Just like any foundation, it took time to be complete Eight years of hard work, great teams, awesome friendships, great customers , ridiculous queries and  of course ridiculous demands… but Eight years nonetheless. Eight years of learning, of being mentored and of being molded. Eight years of small and big triumphs, of satisfaction and of success. Eight years of growth in my personal, physical and career life. EIGHT YEARS.

My Story Number one is Eight years long… A milestone.

On to my Story Number 2 through to Number 101.


Continuity gives us roots; change gives us branches letting us stretch and grow and reach new heights.
~ Pauline R Kezer

This is to the next 100 stories…




A life without regret…not in its entirety…

“Old times” never come back and I suppose it’s just as well. What comes back is a new morning every day in the year, and that’s better.
–George E. Woodberry

Today is the last day of the year 2012…I am thankful that I have seen this day!

SInce the 26th, i have been promising myself to post an appropriate post… but I have been too caught up with work and everything. For the first time in my career the holiday season was the busiest time of 2012…with short deadlines, impatient customers, increasingly incredulous demands…I made it though. I met all deadlines through stealth and resolve :-)…

I always say and believe that I have lived my life without regret. And that may be true. Over the last months though I discovered that there are some things I would do differently if I was to go back in time. Well here is my dark list;

  1. I would invite a little bit of abandon in my life…live a little carelessly at least once
  2. I would not give a hoot about the negative things that people said to me and of me. It’s their weakness that they can’t reconcile my awesomeness with their hideousness.
  3. I would have a stronger resolve in the things I set out to do.
  4. I would choose my University Major myself… I would then settle for Business Administration with two minors in Finance and Marketing
  5. I would see a specialist doctor for even the smallest complications
  6. I would read more books. And All genres too.
  7. I would loan money to friends and family judiciously
  8. I would teach myself how to budget and live by the budget.
  9. I would do my goals mid year and strive to achieve them so that they do not fall in the mediocrity of New year resolutions
  10. I would stand up for myself more than often, make my position known without sounding too defensive and confront all people who need to be confronted without fear or favor.

Had I done the above things I strongly believe, that my life would be different and not necessarily better, but different nonetheless. These are just aspects of my life that I learnt too late that I should have done more… Now, I have more dreams, bigger dreams, inspired by wisdom, wisdom from experience, experience from mistakes and life in general, and even if I do get to live once again for me to be as resounding as I am today, the same mistakes will have to be made.

As I move on to my new year, I would like to wish you a Happy new year, one that’s filled with situations you can convert to happiness, one whose hardships will be within your scope to handle and will only serve to make you more into the person you want to become. And that all God reserves a special channel for your prayers to be processed straight through.

In 2013 choose to change someone’s life in a positive way for it is only in this way that your life may be changed

In 2013 wear someone else’s shoes for a mile before judging them, for it is only in this way that you may also be tolerated.

In 2013 Use Self-preservation with carefulness to ensure that in the process you do not scar a society that is barely holding itself from the hinges of selfishness and unkindness that is the norm; for you cannot expect to have all your rights respected when you are infringing on another’s. even for a ‘just’ cause.

For 2013 , Dare to be Different, for it is in the difference that you create room to accomodate diversity and other peoples differences.

Whatever your prayer for 2013 is, please throw in a sentence that God gives me the desire of my heart…

I knew I had gotten old when I realized that I only have one wish, one prayer and one desire for the year 2013.

“I have no regrets in my life. I think that everything happens to you for a reason. The hard times that you go through build character, making you a much stronger person.”–Rita Mero

Happy new year my people.

With lots of Love,

I blow a million kisses to each one of you

Dare to be Different…

Dare to be different, Dare to be YOU.

Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them. About the only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.”
― Apple Inc.

It takes a lot of courage to have a different opinion from your friends. Or your crowd.
And it is a good thing too.I applaud all those who walk this road.
Belonging to one school of thought is one thing, but not having the independence of thought is something else all together.
One of the ways to sharpen character is to be able to stick to your decision, come what may. Be able to call out wrong for what it is without fear or favour. Being able to withstand criticism so as to be able to defend your moral responsibility.
That does not make you proud, it makes you different and that is the whole constitution of you.

After a certain age one should discard any thoughts of popularity. When you are not in high school, then it does not matter who appoints them selves head of cheer leaders. Because you do not have to laugh at their every joke, or belong to some clique…and here I have to be categorical; Woman if you are over 27 years of age and you still care what your group of friends think, you need a shrink. If you are above that age and you still move around in a clique, you need the pope. If you are within that age group and you cannot for the love of Gos chastise your friend because you need to stay popular, you need Jesus.

It takes a strong character to be able to stick to your guns, it doesn’t matter who is for or against what matters is; Are you right? Are your claims justifiable?
If you can justify what you are claiming and you know for a fact that you are right then they can kick you out of the club membership.
And. You. Will. Not. Care.

photo credit: VinothChandar via photopin cc


There Is Such a Thing As A Good ‘Bye’…

Today let’s talk those people who hurt us so bad. Those who made us cry, who made us think we will never ever love again, or be kind again or care again.

Dear Earthlings, I have a wardrobe full of those people.

Every so often I open that wardrobe look in and smile and wonder; what in the f* hell was I thinking?

It could be an ex boyfriend, a family member (an ex- if only that were possible) or even an ex- BFF.

To be honest sometimes I think if I was given a chance to relive my life I would steer clear of these people. I doubt it. People who hurt me only made me stronger.

Those who broke my heart opened my heart to loving people who are worth my time.

Those who stole from me only taught me the importance of financial planning and sound investment.

Those who wrapped my kindness in a bag full of shit and threw it in a pit latrine, oh those ones taught me the biggest lesson, walking away from doing good and not expecting anything in return. That is the best kind of kindness people.

 So today I was very thankful to all these people. In the end they served to make me a better person.

Thank you for saying goodbye
Making me cry
Leaving me here all alone in the night
You saved my life, that beautiful night
You said goodbye

Thank you for saying goodbye
Found someone new
Yes I’m so grateful, I owe that to you
Told me to tell you he’s thankful too
For saying goodbye
~Deborah Cox Saying Goodbye

If the loser had not broken my heart I would still be in a unfulfilling relationship. And I would not know the love that I know right now… Oh God…Bye bye Baby… thank you for saying goodbye.

If the people had not stolen from me I would still be playing around with money instead of putting it to good investments. Bye bye baby… thank you for saying goodbye.

If they had not taken my kindness for weakness, I would still be holding on to lost causes, I would not know how to really give. Bye bye baby …. Thank you for saying goodbye.

If they had not betrayed my trust, I would not have made true friendships…Oh Bye Bye Baby….Thank you for saying goodbye…

*flying kiss to y’all 🙂

Lipstick Notes

If Dolphins and/or Sharks came to check us humans out …

In my place of work we have a birthday tradition; we all contribute some amount and buy a cake to celebrate the birthday. So come your birthday we try as much as possible and make it a surprise.

I was born on 26th December; this makes the celebration of my birthday from the office extremely hard as for the last 4 years I have been on leave around that time. Anyway that notwithstanding I always contribute towards my other colleagues birthdays and up until recently I was always the one to call the cake house to make orders.

Anyway a very dear, bubbly and wonderful woman always made her birthday very special. Shewould come in and the first thing she would say is ‘is there something different about this day dear?” and she would go on and on about how she can’t wait for us to surprise (as if it was a surprise anymore) her with the cake…and enquiring whether or not we have already collected the money to pay for the cake…

It was so funny and yet we all loved it.

She used to make the office so lively, remember once we took a boat ride looking for dolphins… (Why do humans do that? Go into animals habitat to look for them? I mean do we see dolphins in the streets of New York or Mombasa for that matter taking a walk looking and musing at humans?).

Because  of my healthy fear of large water bodies and all, I was so scared  that I got an asthma attack (it’s my most embarrassing moment to date). She held me through out and when we got ashore and I was much better she kept saying, “You guys think I was scared? Hell No I was not! I would have thrown you to my back and swam ashore, I aint scared of nothing!!!.” It was scary alright, my colleague was so scared for me that she got a panic attack…

Sadly she left our company.

Today when I was writing someone an email and indicated the date as 17th something in my head clicked…and my! it’s her birthday…

So I called her to wish her a happy birthday and as always she was just happy and bubbly, she asks me OH MY GOD how could you remember? Like anyone can forget :-0

Anyways that got me thinking how much humans need each other, I mean it’s not my birthday but just hearing her voice talk about when she was here and laughing at her cartoon ways has uplifted my spirits in a special way…

And she is quite special in my life too, I owe a lot of life lessons to her… Happy Birthday Mother in Law…

This is my appreciation for being there with me… even when you had better things to do…Happy Birthday once again!

I am not young but I feel young. The day I feel old, I will go to bed and stay there. J’aime la vie! I feel that to live is a wonderful thing.
Coco Chanel

Range Rover Evoque…

Monday 23rd April 2012, a day that has seen me wake up with so many doubts, so many hopes for the future and a little bit of strategizing. This is not to say I am not thankful for this awesome day, no not at all. At least I woke up well, very well, still wearing my signature million dollar smile – characteristic of all paupers *smile* *wink*.

The uncertainty about today has nothing to do with the fact that it’s a Monday, no, neither does it have anything to do with the fact that I am sooo (a couple more o’s for emphasis) broke.

See I realized on Sunday that I have matured some. The things I longed for as a little girl are the farthest things from my mind now. The things I pray for now would make – a 16-year-old me want to die in embarrassment.

Even as I struggled to get out of bed and prepare for work, all I did was hope for the best outcome. See I learnt to pray too… Much as I may need something badly, nowadays my prayer along its, “Please Lord please let me have a Range Rover Evoque” usual, will always end with “May your will, Lord, be done”.

That is because in my few decades of life I have learnt that I always pray for things I really don’t need or sometimes I force myself to have things I really don’t need and most often than not they end up not being the best of all ideas.

So I decided to let Him be the final decision maker in my life, my needs and my all, though I still secretly plead with him for a Range Rover Evoque.

So today I am praying for lots of stuff… and one of the things am praying for is especially important in shaping the next decade of my life… However I say, Let your will be done Lord!

I wonder if any of you has ever had a day like Monday 23rd April 2012.