100 stories to go…

If some people are so hungry for a feeling of importance that they actually go insane to get it, imagine what miracle you and I can achieve by giving people honest appreciation this side of insanity.
~ Dale Carnegie


All you can hear is laughter.

Male and Female laughter, high and low pitched, shrieky, deep… all kinds of laughter that made for a beautiful sound to my ears.

Seated around a table, actually four tables that have been joined together to better accommodate the large crowd, a group of young professionals shared jokes, stories and lots of laughter.

I walked in late, the ambience was awesome and I stood at a distance and the one thing I thought, I will miss this people.


Every successful individual knows that his or her achievement depends on a community of persons working together. ~ Paul Ryan


They dedicated their after work time to appreciate me. (and a couple of my colleagues who are also moving on… but this is my story)

I wouldn’t be the person I am today in my career without these beautiful, mosaic crowd of my peers and seniors.

They have molded me by teaching, training, working with and supporting me all the years and here they were selflessly taking time off their rest hours to gather round and appreciate me.

The first eight years in my professional life and here I was saying goodbye to it.

Mixed emotions… I was happy I was moving but sad that this is all I knew.

They been my family for the better part of the last eight years, and one thing is for sure, each of them represented a print in my memories.

Some of my very special and lasting friendships were born here…


The making of friends who are real friends, is the best token we have of a man’s success in life.
~Edward E. Hale


Anyway as a gift I received a book, Chicken Soup for The Soul; On Being a Parent. 101 Stories. (I am a parent) – They got me a gift!! Aren’t these people awesome?

I managed to read the foreword and the first story; I have 100 stories to left to read.

And it dawned on me; This was just story number one, 100 more to go…

I have just but done one story in my career. Just like any foundation, it took time to be complete Eight years of hard work, great teams, awesome friendships, great customers , ridiculous queries and  of course ridiculous demands… but Eight years nonetheless. Eight years of learning, of being mentored and of being molded. Eight years of small and big triumphs, of satisfaction and of success. Eight years of growth in my personal, physical and career life. EIGHT YEARS.

My Story Number one is Eight years long… A milestone.

On to my Story Number 2 through to Number 101.


Continuity gives us roots; change gives us branches letting us stretch and grow and reach new heights.
~ Pauline R Kezer

This is to the next 100 stories…




A life without regret…not in its entirety…

“Old times” never come back and I suppose it’s just as well. What comes back is a new morning every day in the year, and that’s better.
–George E. Woodberry

Today is the last day of the year 2012…I am thankful that I have seen this day!

SInce the 26th, i have been promising myself to post an appropriate post… but I have been too caught up with work and everything. For the first time in my career the holiday season was the busiest time of 2012…with short deadlines, impatient customers, increasingly incredulous demands…I made it though. I met all deadlines through stealth and resolve :-)…

I always say and believe that I have lived my life without regret. And that may be true. Over the last months though I discovered that there are some things I would do differently if I was to go back in time. Well here is my dark list;

  1. I would invite a little bit of abandon in my life…live a little carelessly at least once
  2. I would not give a hoot about the negative things that people said to me and of me. It’s their weakness that they can’t reconcile my awesomeness with their hideousness.
  3. I would have a stronger resolve in the things I set out to do.
  4. I would choose my University Major myself… I would then settle for Business Administration with two minors in Finance and Marketing
  5. I would see a specialist doctor for even the smallest complications
  6. I would read more books. And All genres too.
  7. I would loan money to friends and family judiciously
  8. I would teach myself how to budget and live by the budget.
  9. I would do my goals mid year and strive to achieve them so that they do not fall in the mediocrity of New year resolutions
  10. I would stand up for myself more than often, make my position known without sounding too defensive and confront all people who need to be confronted without fear or favor.

Had I done the above things I strongly believe, that my life would be different and not necessarily better, but different nonetheless. These are just aspects of my life that I learnt too late that I should have done more… Now, I have more dreams, bigger dreams, inspired by wisdom, wisdom from experience, experience from mistakes and life in general, and even if I do get to live once again for me to be as resounding as I am today, the same mistakes will have to be made.

As I move on to my new year, I would like to wish you a Happy new year, one that’s filled with situations you can convert to happiness, one whose hardships will be within your scope to handle and will only serve to make you more into the person you want to become. And that all God reserves a special channel for your prayers to be processed straight through.

In 2013 choose to change someone’s life in a positive way for it is only in this way that your life may be changed

In 2013 wear someone else’s shoes for a mile before judging them, for it is only in this way that you may also be tolerated.

In 2013 Use Self-preservation with carefulness to ensure that in the process you do not scar a society that is barely holding itself from the hinges of selfishness and unkindness that is the norm; for you cannot expect to have all your rights respected when you are infringing on another’s. even for a ‘just’ cause.

For 2013 , Dare to be Different, for it is in the difference that you create room to accomodate diversity and other peoples differences.

Whatever your prayer for 2013 is, please throw in a sentence that God gives me the desire of my heart…

I knew I had gotten old when I realized that I only have one wish, one prayer and one desire for the year 2013.

“I have no regrets in my life. I think that everything happens to you for a reason. The hard times that you go through build character, making you a much stronger person.”–Rita Mero

Happy new year my people.

With lots of Love,

I blow a million kisses to each one of you

When Life Knocks You Down, Lay There for a While

Most times it is very important to pause and regroup. Recollect yourself only after One needs, no, not one, everyone needs to rethink their options, the strategies and the actions before bouncing back into action.
I say when life hands you lemons, find out where there is good demand for you to make a profit.

I really like this post. I thought to share with you…

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Despite being alone in that location, the tree blossoms, the green flourishes… all because it chooses to focus on the sun that is its nourishment and gives shade to those weary…
Lesson Learnt: dont peg your happiness on numbers…peg it on your ability to use your situation to make others happy

While taking a drive in the interior of the Kenyan Coast province I came across this lonesome tree pictured above. It stood tall and gracious despite the harsh conditions of the area in which it grows. Behind it there is a foot path and apparently people usually take a  rest under it after a long walk. People from this area are not privileged enough to afford transport from one town to another, they have to walk. Hence this tree offers a shade to many people.

Yet this tree caught my attention. I had to stop by the side of the road and take a photo of it. I even walked to it and had a closer look at it. There was something about this tree. I took a photo so that I may later have a good look at it..

It’s not a special tree…nope its not. Its a simple mango tree. But for a reason, I kept this photo. Sometimes while going through my phone Istop by it and wonder what it is that drew me to it.

And Friday while I was looking at it I realised there are some things in life that we NEED and those are the things that reallymatter to us. The things we want only go to make us ‘feel’ happy but if we have the things we need and we appreciate those things then we become really happy.

This tree might think that  it would feel much happier to have others around it or to have someone pour water to its roots every sunrise, e.t.c. And yet it is actually picturesque and beautiful to a passerby like me and Godsent to those who so need its shade.

What the tree doesnt know is that all it needs is sunshine and the limited rain drops that is the condition of the area to blossom and even bear fruit.

And so Friday morning while in the office I thought, why am not myself this day? Is it because of the many issues that surround me?  Do those issues define me? No? Really… No! Then I challenged myself to be happy, to draw out all my positivity, the nature of me that makes me tick…And I did…And the result? Bliss….

I told my self, ” Self, This weekend throw out Miss Negative and make suweet suweet love to Mr. Positive…”. And I did just that…

Here are the lessons I learnt this past weekend

  1. Family is important; the joy of knowing where your family is and how they are doing is just great. But getting a visit from your lovely sister that you so dearly missed is even better…always….
  2. That it does not matter what you have been through or how tumultuous your times have been, being in the company of people who love you makes it all fade…
  3. Laughter is indeed the best medicine…
  4. There is NOTHING like too much sex… Nope…Never…. And Sex is a good thing people…it is!
  5. Lastly and why I chose to write this piece… positive thoughts attract positive energy which then attracts positive things to your life

God knows how I can sulk and be unhappy… negativity draws out my strength and uses it all up and renders me weak to be consumed by hate, jealousy, unforgiveness… it brings out the worst in me. Funny thing is instead of kicking it in the curb I suppress it and it goes ahead to eat at my health, and before I know it I have an ailment which can range from a small headache to an asthma attack.

Growing up everyone used to say to me, “Baby Girl why do you like laughing so much?”,Or the classic question “Do you ever get mad?”, I never understood why until just the last weekend; You see  it’s my body’s way of making me healthy. I smile much, laugh often and loud and I forgive easy… I also shun negative people and talk not in their presence and recant all negative reports whether consciously or sub consciously.

So going back to the weekend, given my last two weeks of negativity (will have you know some of it came from quarters that should ideally not affect me as much) this weekend I purposed to rather than suppress, I will exalt my most active positive nature. So I started with the laughing, the joking and polished my sexuality…. Lets just say it paid…in a big way…in all ways…

So going forward, other than the necessary things to worry about, I will not worry about other people’s intelligence or lack of and closer home I will not worry much about the tomorrow. The NOW I have, I LOVE. And the NOW I have is POSITIVE and that NOW is what makes me glow…

Have a positive day my people…



The Bondage We Do Not Recognise

I got these beautiful babies right here as a gift… They tasted as i had hoped they would…melting slowly in your mouth as you savour the taste…Damn! Thank you so very very much!

Amazing! Amazing!

The most dangerous love is the love that transformed itself from love as we know it to duty. Sort of like a sense of loyalty. You do everything because you owe it to that person to do it. Not because you want to do it or have a strong feeling pushing and pulling towards you doing it.

All types of love transform into this kind of love if not checked. Its bondage I tell you.
All people should have a choice in love; time always lets us enjoy the beauty of hindsight. When time passes you are able to look back and weigh your decisions against the reality of now. That is the exact moment when choice comes to play; you choose whether that’s what you want to continue seeing in your future or not. The beauty of hindsight!!

I think ‘choice’ is the greatest gift bestowed upon mankind. Being able to choose what to wear, how to wear it, what to eat, whom to eat with is a freedom we always take for granted. Departments of Corrections all around the world know that when you take the small choices off of someone’s table then you take away their freedom.

When I think of life and love other than the obvious choice of whom to love (in terms of not having someone thrown at you by circumstances or people with washed up ideologies), I would also like the choice of how to love, when to love, what to do when in love and with the objects of my love…

I would like to be able to know that am in love because my life without the person in question will not be as great, or that every moment I spend with them is almost magical or that we laugh hard and loud but most of all that I can be myself around them. And myself as mentioned here; be ye not fooled, is a handful…