The Flipside…

Life may suck.
More often than not it does suck.

The best way to deal with sucky sucky life is to suck right back.

Go out with your head high, look at it straight in the eye and dare it to dish you any more bs it has in its store, because what you will do is climb on top of every shove and be a better person.

If its that sucky job, get so good at it that it becomes enjoyable.

If its your man/woman sleeping with another concentrate on being such a good person that soon a better person will come along and appreciate you. Pr they will realise how a big ass thats dishing it to his friend doesnt fill that vacuum.

If its that other man and woman who keeps calling you names be easy because their time will come. After all they are ugly inside so they want to project it on you. Sucky sucky lives. So keep smiling because their lives suck so much they not only want what you have they wish they were you.

When their time comes you will be well ahead you will just LOL at how bad it made you feel that they had the nerve to call you names.

If its that sucky friend who is just sucky, good riddance you dont need that bs anyway. Walk away.

While life mocks us, we humbly look at it and dare it some more and sooner than later it will find us too boring to be sucky sucky to.
After all we dont come out alive.
Whats the worst it can do? Suck some more?

And life goes on…

With Love,

With Love


The Unlikely Feat…

The Hardest part of a business, is minding your own. ~Unknown

I thought some things are simple.

You know, like minding your own business.

Whether at home, in the office, in traffic or even in a public vehicle.

I thought wrong.

It’s a feat, an accomplishment even a miracle for some people to just sit their behinds down and mind their own business.

It’s almost sinful for them to do so too.

Civilization depends on, and civility often requires, the willingness to say, ‘What you are doing is none of my business’ and ‘What I am doing is none of your business. ~George Will

Sometimes I see why we might not be able to achieve even one of the millennium goals.

How can we?

When we spend the biggest chunk of our time with our noses  far up someone’s business we actually lose the sense of smell.

But then again its not my business that people like being in other people business.

Infact its not my business that people choose to be up my business.

All I endeavour to do is be off anyone elses business. For sanity’s sake.

It’s a rot in society that will not stop. Not because its difficult to stop but because stopping it will render alot of people useless. Thats where they thrive. And thats where they must be left ; In other peoples business.

You should see these people when they find new information from their basket of  “other peoples business i need to venture” my saying they are like crazed dogs on heat, renders the said dogs quite polite.

Poor Souls.

…and to aspire to live quietly, and to mind your own affairs, and to work with your hands, as we instructed you… ~ The Bible. The Good Book. 1 Thessalonians 4:11


The Pain. The Pen. Life.

It happens to everyone as they grow up. You find out who you are and what you want, and then you realize that people you’ve known forever don’t see things the way you do. So you keep the wonderful memories, but find yourself moving on. ~Nicholas Sparks

 Every time I sit down to write I realize that I am afraid the post may be too long, too open, too bitter or all of the above.

So today I want to thank the almighty because after a very long time I got the courage to write. I am not a good writer or even blogger by all standards, but I got the courage to get out of myself and look at life from outside of myself and write however plain.

So today am in traffic and with the car radio off I could practically hear myself think. That was despite the many tuk tuks that were around me, the crazy honking drivers and generally the noise of traffic.

What is life about?

Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.~ Soren Kierkegaard 

Life is about giving and receiving. It’s in the giving that we appreciate others and it’s in the receiving that we feel appreciated. While all along I thought Life was about love, happiness and wealth. I am ready to admit that I was wrong.

All three aspects above are as a result of giving and receiving.

We often tend to give too much, or too little and receive too little where we gave too much or too much where we gave too little.

Recently I realized that I was okay in giving, I was happy giving and I gave whole heartedly, I was even willing to give more, But reality dawned on me that as much as I gave I never got back. Even in small doses. And I realized that it was not worth it.

You only go where you are appreciated. And you go quickly. Because Life only makes sense when you are appreciated and you get more zest to appreciate others.

Humanity detects that when you realise that a person or a cause can benefit more from someone elses gifts or givin then its only proper for you to allow them to receive wholly and to be happy because they can give back to them in appreciation.

You will find that it is necessary to let things go; simply for the reason that they are heavy. So let them go, let go of them. I tie no weights to my ankles ~ C. Joybell. C

With Love,


Of the Will and Atonement…

The beginning of atonement is the sense of its necessity.
Lord Byron

Today I heard such a profound story and thought I should share it.

In fact I heard three stories; of the three stories, this one was more profound. I think.

The story is told of a certain man named Man from a certain Town called A. Man was a very bad man. He had killed 99 people from Town A.

However in his journeys he developed a conscious and all of a sudden he started seeking atonement.

He met a villager who had no o limited knowledge of the religion, let’s call him Y. So Man approaches Y and asks him, “I have killed 99 people in my journeys, however I really want atonement, do you think Allah will forgive me?”

Y, because of his ignorance of religion answers, “ 99 are too many people, that’s too much blood, I don’t think you will ever be forgiven. In fact I am certain you will go straight to hell.”

Man was very incensed and thought to himself if that is the case then, what does it matter if its 99 or 100. So he went ahead and killed Y, bringing his count to 100.

Man continued his walk and just ahead he met another villager. A man who was a scholar in the religion. Let’s call this guy Scholar. So man approaches Scholar and asks him the same question, “I have killed 99 people in my journeys, however I really want atonement, do you think Allah will forgive me?”

Scholar, because of his knowledge of religion answers, “Allah is full of grace and Mercy, there is no amount of sin that he cannot forgive, if you really desire the atonement then he is sure to atone you of your sins. However where did you kill these people?”

Man Answers, “Right here in A”

Scholar then tells him that for him to get atonement Has to travel to the nearby town, B, because the blood of the 99 people will overshadow his request to the most High.
With that Answer, Man sets about his journey to B. without a word of goodbye to either his family or friends. He did not want to waste too much time I presume.

He ran, walked, jogged crawled all the way to B, as fate would have it, just at the border of A and B, Man fell down and died.
Immediately two angels descended, one the Angel sent from Heaven and the other from hell. Each claiming Man as theirs.

Angel of Heaven says, “this man really wanted atonement, he came all the way, it is evidence that he is a good man who felt bad about his ways and wanted to be rid of his sins.”

Angel from Hell says, “Whatever man, this guy did not get to B and even if he did, he had not asked for atonement as yet.”
Allah seeing what is happening sent an angel to come as a judge and decide on the matter. The Angel says, “Let’s measure the distance between where he is from and where he is going.” Being at the border the man was closest to B, hence the angel decreed that his desire for atonement was greater than his capacity to sin at that very moment.
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How Far Would You Go…

Dont be like that.
I know I have been very absent and some of you have emailed me with reprimands  🙂
Blame my absence on the fact that I have to work and I have to grow my career. I however promise to balance my life between my readership and my employer.
I would think that’s fair…right?

So how far would you go? To get what you want? To get that beautiful home, that super speed car, that promotion or that well sculptured man or even that next door neighbour as your wife?
What will you be willing to lay down? Your Life? Your Humanity? Your reason? What?

Its only when you examine your limits that you will know your true self. A human being without limits is more dangerous than a nuclear bomb in the hands of a child.

When you know how much everything means to you, then you will know how much you are willing to let go to get that small luxury that you have been longing for.

Methinks we take life too seriously…But I also know that a crop of our generation; the YOLO generation, takes life too lightly.
In our endeavours to better our  lives we do not care about the ripple effect.

What is the ripple effect you may ask… Every action has a reaction that causes another reaction that in turn causes another reaction… all the way back to the original action. Yes, I know it has indeed been said to you over and over but I will say it again, Everything you do, will affect someone’s life, whether directly or indirectly and everything you do will come back to you. Directly.

It’s sort of like the man who woke up one morning and decided to clean out his lawn… it was full of leaves and polythene bags and trash from several weeks ago. He was prompted by the sight of his neighbor’s lawn that was meticulously done and neat, the grass short enough and green enough, the edges pruned and the sides swept.

He went to work, he swept and raked and mowed and did everything he needed to do. In the end, he collected all of the garbage bags and put them as the front gate to await collection. However when he went back to the house, he saw the oile outside the gate and was not satisfied, being late in the evening, he gathered himself, took the bags and damped them at his neighbours lawn hoping no one will notice.

He got what he wanted, a clean and neat lawn.
His neighbour, however, might not be too pleased, but Oh well… (That is typical of our YOLO generation)

Seriously though, the line between complusive disorders, insanity, and ambition is very thin. It’s called Limit.

Know your Limits… Always…In all situations. Know what you are willing to lose for that gain, know who you are willing to annoy for that truth to be out and always, for heavens sake, Apply those limits.



Accept My Apologies,



The value of an emotional tear drop…


Tears might taste salty and salt being a common mineral I suspect many common people would calously think that tears if were to ever be given a value then they would be, uuuhm, cheap for lack of a better word.
Maybe not all tears… An emotional tear drop would be so invaluable even the richest man would just covet it.
The need to shed a tear is as a result of a strong battle of wills… when the will to release oneself to their emotions wins, the result is the tear.
Sometimes its not all for gloom, though most times it is.

Remember this the next time you say or do something that will make another cry.
Remember this the next time someone does or says something that makes you cry.


The Power of Prayer…

I wanted my first post on January 2013 to be about this awesome wedding that I missed sometime last year.My Friend Eric married Jackie in a beautiful bumblebee wedding and I missed it!

It so happened that I could not fully download the kind of photos that i required for the kind of post i have in mind… Hence i have put up a photo that will give you an idea of that beautiful wedding as i continue my hunt for the photos i require.


Anyway this year I have been a very poor blogger with little time in my hands and many things happening very fast. Yep… even for me! I know a few people who would absolutely frown at my statement… but it is true…even I get ‘shocked’ at the speed of life sometimes.

I will have you all know that I did not intend for this to be a spiritual blog, in fact, honestly when i started this blog that was the farthest thing from my mind, but…and here is where you need to put your spectacles on and read carefully, BUT,  I NEED TO ACKNOWLEDGE THE POWER OF PRAYER.

Prayer is powerful, and you all need to know that… embrace it and practise it. Prayer with Faith is as powerful as the currency of power in any country!

You just please God so much into opening up doors for you…

Watch this space for the blog on my friend’s wedding, you guys are gonna be happy :- and watch this space for more smiley blogs…


With Tons of Amour,


2013 Invitation…

I would like to invite guest writers to write about their day to day experiences.
My ultimate goal is to make the world a better place, one post at a time!!!
Comment with your email and i will write each of you and vet you.

Once again May your new year be filled with blessings!


It’s Already Tomorrow

The things we worry about are rarely worth worrying about!

Probably the Most Awesomest Quotes Ever Invented

“Do not worry about the world ending today, it’s already tomorrow in Australia.”

-Charles Schulz

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A life without regret…not in its entirety…

“Old times” never come back and I suppose it’s just as well. What comes back is a new morning every day in the year, and that’s better.
–George E. Woodberry

Today is the last day of the year 2012…I am thankful that I have seen this day!

SInce the 26th, i have been promising myself to post an appropriate post… but I have been too caught up with work and everything. For the first time in my career the holiday season was the busiest time of 2012…with short deadlines, impatient customers, increasingly incredulous demands…I made it though. I met all deadlines through stealth and resolve :-)…

I always say and believe that I have lived my life without regret. And that may be true. Over the last months though I discovered that there are some things I would do differently if I was to go back in time. Well here is my dark list;

  1. I would invite a little bit of abandon in my life…live a little carelessly at least once
  2. I would not give a hoot about the negative things that people said to me and of me. It’s their weakness that they can’t reconcile my awesomeness with their hideousness.
  3. I would have a stronger resolve in the things I set out to do.
  4. I would choose my University Major myself… I would then settle for Business Administration with two minors in Finance and Marketing
  5. I would see a specialist doctor for even the smallest complications
  6. I would read more books. And All genres too.
  7. I would loan money to friends and family judiciously
  8. I would teach myself how to budget and live by the budget.
  9. I would do my goals mid year and strive to achieve them so that they do not fall in the mediocrity of New year resolutions
  10. I would stand up for myself more than often, make my position known without sounding too defensive and confront all people who need to be confronted without fear or favor.

Had I done the above things I strongly believe, that my life would be different and not necessarily better, but different nonetheless. These are just aspects of my life that I learnt too late that I should have done more… Now, I have more dreams, bigger dreams, inspired by wisdom, wisdom from experience, experience from mistakes and life in general, and even if I do get to live once again for me to be as resounding as I am today, the same mistakes will have to be made.

As I move on to my new year, I would like to wish you a Happy new year, one that’s filled with situations you can convert to happiness, one whose hardships will be within your scope to handle and will only serve to make you more into the person you want to become. And that all God reserves a special channel for your prayers to be processed straight through.

In 2013 choose to change someone’s life in a positive way for it is only in this way that your life may be changed

In 2013 wear someone else’s shoes for a mile before judging them, for it is only in this way that you may also be tolerated.

In 2013 Use Self-preservation with carefulness to ensure that in the process you do not scar a society that is barely holding itself from the hinges of selfishness and unkindness that is the norm; for you cannot expect to have all your rights respected when you are infringing on another’s. even for a ‘just’ cause.

For 2013 , Dare to be Different, for it is in the difference that you create room to accomodate diversity and other peoples differences.

Whatever your prayer for 2013 is, please throw in a sentence that God gives me the desire of my heart…

I knew I had gotten old when I realized that I only have one wish, one prayer and one desire for the year 2013.

“I have no regrets in my life. I think that everything happens to you for a reason. The hard times that you go through build character, making you a much stronger person.”–Rita Mero

Happy new year my people.

With lots of Love,

I blow a million kisses to each one of you

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